It’s common to enter the role of caregiver without having experienced its long term complexities. What initially appeared to be a few simple chores easily completed in a few hours absorb, eventually absorb more and more time. Over time, you realize that your loved one has changed and no longer functions independently as he once did.

You also come to the realization that your personal life has changed: You spend less time caring for your own family and home. And while you generally enjoy helping your loved one, occasionally you feel resentful. You didn’t expect caregiving to change your life so drastically. Nor did you expect your loved one to lean so heavily on you. You find yourself getting angry with your loved one. You struggle to keep this unwelcome emotion from emerging. What should you do with your anger?

Let's consider a couple of facts about anger:

1. Depending on what you do with it, anger isn’t all bad—it is telling you something is missing in your life.

2. While this may sound peculiar, try listening to your anger, sometimes it functions as an “advanced warning system” that alerts you to impending danger. Pay attend to this type of anger. Take time to think about what is on your mind. Identify what is missing in your life. Is it time? If so, list the things you need to do for yourself: See your doctor? Get a haircut? Pay your bills? Next, develop a plan to carve out the time to address your needs. Most likely, your plan will include getting help. And while many of us are reluctant, embarrassed, or afraid to ask for help, being a physically and emotionally healthy caregiver means we can't go it alone. (We'll delve further into this topic in a later issue).

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​Anger and Caregiving:
Incompatible or Invaluable?


AnneMarie Catanzano, M.A.
Certified Dementia Practitioner and Family Caregiver Specialist
“Support and Programs Available Through Southern Maine Agency on Aging”
7:00-8:00, Wednesday, May 27, 2015
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326 Main St, Yarmouth, Maine
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Managing Transitions: A Daughter's Reflections
Maureen Eberly
Caregiver, Advocate, Educator

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Being a caregiver is a tough job, one we can do,
especially when we have the right support. 

As Christopher Robin tells Pooh: 
           "Promise me you'll always remember:
You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem,
and smarter than you think."

So are we. 

With warm regards,  
Catherine Gentile, editor

Together With Alzheimer's Ezine​


People who share common concerns often form “support”or "self-help" groups. Dementia and other neuro-degenerative illnesses are traumatic for the person with the illness, the spouse, parents, children and other family members. Support groups provide caregivers with the opportunity to share their stories and concerns with others in similar situations. Participants often say that they feel “at home” in these groups because there is no need to explain the idiosyncrasies of their loved one's condition. Everyone is in the same boat.

Group members share their knowledge, information, and experience with one another. “They brain storm possible approaches to one another's issues and concerns. Talking about these problems helps take the “sting” out of them and supports members in their search for effective ways in which to cope with the challenges of caregiving. Members may opt to share their joys and their grief. They share laughter, too!

Here are a few guidelines that will help family members or caregivers interested in forming a support group:​

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Organize Your Own Support Group:

Caring for the Caregiver:
Tips for May

1. Even if your loved one/client's words sting, never take them personally.​

2. If your loved one/client says or does something that hurts your feelings, breathe in through your nose and let it out. Repeat this several times until you feel calm.                                                          

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